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RSVP deadline: Wedding RSVP Etiquette for You and Your Guests

Jul 5, 2018


In the earlier times, the RSVP etiquette for weddings differed to a substantial degree. In those times, guests let the hosts know whether they would be attending a wedding by writing their response on their own stationery and mailing it back to the return address on the envelope. 

Répondez s’il vous plait or RSVP, is the request for such response, was located in the bottom left corner. This indicated that a written response was requested, and also signified that the guest would write the response on their stationery and send it to the address from which the invitation originated. But in current times the guests are now given a bit more compensation, but that doesn’t completely replace the thought that there is a certain etiquette involved with the formal reply. Presently, the communicative demands of both the host and the guests are irrefutably upgraded. When your event is formal, chances are the planning is more intense.


Here, we'll show you how to classify the formal from casual RSVP etiquette when it comes to making a precise formal response card for today’s modern events.

Essentially, response cards help hosts keep the record of the guest list, which is an important part of the preparation process. Response cards serve as a preliminary of personal communication between a guest and the host. Responses also affect things like pricing and seating charts and ultimately the cost.


That association between the host providing the ambiance, and the guest providing the support, is a significant and often neglected feature of this traditional piece of social mode. Neglecting to engage in this aspect, for example, the “RSVP dance” is one of the most often perpetrated, and easily identified social mistake.

We'll guide you through one of the most important parts of the modern formal wedding invitation suite. In this article, we rule out the edicts for RSVP etiquette.

The Style

In modern formal wedding invitations, a response card is sent accompanying with the ceremony card and is printed in the same style (i.e. the fonts and formats) and stationary as the rest of the wedding invitation set. Always remember that response card envelopes should always be pre-addressed and stamped to make it as easy as possible for guests to respond immediately.


According to second-generation traditional rules of RSVP etiquette, a response card should be a blank card. In that blank canvas, the R.S.V.P. is printed should be printed at the lower left corner of the card or you can just let the stationary blank, without any print and with only a reply date printed at the top. The guest should respond with a written note, including their full name and who will be with them in the ceremony, along with a few lines of greetings and wishes for the hosts.

Take note that if you use “favor/favour” on the response card should be consistent in the style of “honor/honour” used on the ceremony card.


As a host, you may feel that you should offer a bit more supervision for the guests. If the invitation is formal, you should keep in mind that you necessarily leave room for the merriment of a written response.

Truly, weddings often include several different events or entertainments. In this case, the response card can work as a way for guests to advice for each of the events as well as provide a space for notes to the couple and/or entrée selections for the reception.


As RSVP etiquette, if wedding sequence includes other activities hosted by the same person or couple sending the wedding invitation suite, you may have the need for more head counting. You may need a larger card so that you leave room for guests to correspond with you properly so you'll not regret it! Just remember to keep your grouping clear, and wording to a minimum. Those little notes of good wishes are keepsakes for a lifetime.

The letter “M” should be printed onto the response card, this indicates where guests should write their name and the names of anyone with whom they are attending, and this is another RSVP etiquette the hosts should remember. When the envelope indicates that the guest could bring another guest, write the name of the guest on the reply card. This way, the hosts will know the names of all guests in order to use that information on escort cards, gifts, and seating charts.


RSVP etiquette for guests is that as soon as you receive an invitation, you should mark your calendar, consult your plus-one and then respond punctually. In the event, you find yourself unable to attend a wedding after you responded that you will be there, call the bride or groom immediately in an effort to lessen any nuisances. This will give them a chance to rearrange any preparations they have made regarding your attendance. Never give an explicit response.

If you responded without a plus-one and RSVP etiquette says do NOT bring a guest, even if you were originally invited to bring one. You must be consistent with your response. Make no mistake: Response cards are modern incarnations of a reply steeped in tradition and RSVP etiquette.

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